So a few weeks ago my friend asked me if I would go speed dating with her. People have been telling me to join match.com, and now suggesting speed dating?! What the….. but it’s true I am single in the city and the guys I meet at bars are usually interested in one thing and one thing only, so why not try and meet people who are actually interested in dating with a face to face connection. What the heck, I said I’d go.

But, what do you wear to speed dating? I don’t want to appear desperate, but still need to look hot! I admit it, once I decided I would go I was secretly dreaming about meeting my own Brad Pitt look alike. I decided on the casual I don’t care too much about this, but I have a full face of makeup and nice hair look. Jeans, plain shirt, blazer, flats.  

So, I met her and a few of her friends who were also attending speed dating at a bar and we had a few drinks first. I was just tipsy enough to be able to get through this. When we arrived we were given name tags and told where to sit. The girls would remain seating while the boys rotated around. While sitting waiting for the guys one of the girls I met earlier got my attention and whispered that there was a guy there she had a crush on. Now, does that mean he’s off limits to me? Who is he? Is he cute? Is there a speed dating girl code?

The daters finally sat down and I started off a little uncomfortable. My first date was set up with this guy who was actually kind of cute, but kept talking about how he was forced into going speed dating. Now, I think if you’re going to go speed dating you have to embrace the fact that you’re there, also, making it seem like you’re only there because you were forced to go and feel surrounded by losers doesn’t really give a first impression. Plus, you had to pay $15 dollars for this event and I know you’re lying!

A few more people rotated around and I got a little more drunk and things started getting better. Also, I made one joke that made a guy laugh so then recycled it to get the conversation going for all the rest of the guys. Brilliant Idea! I became determined to make every guy like me.

Finally I was at my last speed dater and it was time to cast our votes. The way you did this was check three guys off on your list. If you check the same three guys that checked you, you will then get their email later on and you can choose to do what you wish with it. So I was ready to cast my votes. I wasn’t really into any of them, but the vain side of me wanted to know if I would get three emails back. So, I started checking when I noticed the guy sitting next to me was staring at my paper. I tried to hide it and then he was like “Look I’m just picking you” and showed me he had a check next to my name. Uh…. Awkward.  I said thank you and then tried to turn my back and hide my paper, but he actually called me out “Are you checking other people?” What the…. Was this guy getting mad? I answered “Yeah I thought we had to check three people” he got angry! “I thought we had a good date?” now let me explain that these “dates” were a six minute long conversation! I felt so uncomfortable so at this moment I stood up and went to the bar to secretly cast my votes.

Afterwards, I met my friend and her friends and we all went over who we checked. You could tell it was a little uncomfortable when we checked the same person. All of a sudden we were sizing each other up. Who would get e-mails back? I really didn’t like the person I had become within that hour of speed dating. Who knew I would get so competitive!

I left the bar and a week later I got an email from the woman in charge of coordinating the event. I received 3 e-mail addresses- WINNING!